Ep 26 – The Most Controversial Statement I’ve Ever Made

This is the statement that will get you to hate me. You will unfriend me. Unsubscribe from this podcast. And troll me to the end of my days. I was surprised but it’s true.
Here’s the statement:

For all my life, white people have been pretty nice to me.

I could lie and say they all were nice but with a well hidden racist undertone. But I have this fault of seeing the good in people.

Episode 24 – Real Thoughts on Racism

When it comes to my real feelings about racism, I tend to be very jokey about it. I do that because I’m frustrated by the inconsistencies of those who claim they aren’t racists and believe that white people are the worst things about America.

The current debate about racism is less about peace and equality and more about politics. Politically we need to show my opponent is more racist than me.

If your goal isn’t peace and equality, then you’re really not serious about ending racism.

Ep 22 – The Klan and I – How to Empower a Small Band of Racists

How real is the clan? The news would have you believe there’s a resurgence in the white nationalist movement. That is until 500 morons showed up in Charlottesville.

That’s barely 1 percent of 1 percent of the women’s march, but somehow the media thinks this is enough for news. Somehow the mainstream media feels that by giving legitimacy to a small faction of humanity, we should all go nuts.

The only power the Klan has is the power you give them.

Are “Equality” and “Diversity” Two Opposing Forces?

Growing up in the 80’s the fight was for racial and gender equality. My understanding was that when it was all said and done, all Americans wanted to be treated equally with no regard to gender or race.
“Equality” means that we are judged by the content and quality of our character and not on the color of our skin, nor our gender. “Equality” means that we are all Americans and not African- or Asian-Americans. In the workforce, we were hired based solely on our qualifications. In society, we were to treat our neighbor as ourselves.
But is the dream of “Equality” lost? Was it ever a goal in the first place?
It appears that “Equality” is being replaced by “Diversity”. This is not necessarily a bad thing. For me, it’s simply a change in thinking. I no longer have to look at people as equals, but I have to look at them as men and women, Caucasian, African, Asian, Hispanic, etc. I have to look at my life and wonder, do I have enough Hispanics, Africans and Caucasians friends in my life. Am I being racist because I’m hanging out with the Asians? Do I have the right racial balance in friends?
Ultimately, the “Diversity” question is bigger than myself. Are companies hiring from a diverse pool of applicants? Does the Widget Corporation hire enough African, Hispanic and Asian employees? If a company has met it’s quota of Asians, does that mean it can stop hiring Asians without penalty?
Funny, but this seems to be just an American thing. If you go to China, the country of my heritage, there’s no such thing as diversity. If you’re Chinese and male, welcome to the head of the line. Mexico doesn’t seem to care much about diversity. I don’t see African-Mexicans on television of film. How many Asian business owners are there in Africa?
Honestly, I don’t know what the answer is. Mainly, because I don’t know what the end game is. In fact, many of you will respond to this post decrying society. It’s easy to pass off the solutions to a third party, like the government. But ask yourself, “what is my end game?” I have a dream, and it remains a dream.

My Real Position on Diversity and Racism

After looking at my last few tweets and status updates, I’ve discovered that I’ve been a little cryptic about my real position regarding racism and diversity for the sake of being humorous. I feel to continue this discussion in a real way, I should make a statement and share my real feelings about race and diversity.

Let me start by saying I’m an Asian-American. Like that’s a surprise. Both my mother came to the United States at the age of 10 just after WWII ending. My father was born in San Francisco. His father came to the United States around the time of the earthquake. Both my grandparents came to the U.S. so that their children could have better lives. The vast majority of my aunts and uncles, ten in total, graduated from college. My father was an Aeronautical Engineer and worked for Rockwell on the space program that put an American on the moon, and my mother was an early computer programmer and knows more about computers than I do. My brothers have college degrees, and most of my cousins also have college degrees.

I write this to say that for my family being a minority in the United States was not easy, but somehow we made it. We survived and somehow flourished in what some of my peers call “The most racist country in the world.” In my old age, I still would rather live in “the most racist country in the world,” than anywhere else. I’ve also come to believe so would everyone else, even the worst of victims of white racism.

That said, let’s dive headfirst into the subject of diversity. My official statement is this. I probably would be more behind the whole diversity movement if the movement embraced Asians and Latinos. At the moment, Diversity is meant for the groups that yell the loudest. As of 2016, the loudest groups are African-Americans and the LGBTQ communities. In my mind, this is not a problem, but a sad reality of human nature. The squeaky wheel gets the grease. I’ve been told that Asians need to support African Americans because once they have equality, when we’re next in line after the Latinos. So basically, we’re going to solve racism one race at a time. I don’t buy that.
We may be different racially and culturally, but we’re all still human beings. The sad truth is that we’re all selfish by nature, and when we gather as blacks, Latinos, and Asians, we’re downright narcissistic. Human truth: my group’s demands are to be met before yours.

We may be different racially and culturally, but we’re all still human beings. The sad truth is that we’re all selfish by nature, and when we gather as blacks, Latinos, and Asians, we’re downright narcissistic. Human truth: my group’s demands are to be met before yours.

I know American history. I’m not blind to the atrocities of slavery. I’m not blind to the violence leading up to the Civil Rights movement of the 60’s. At the same time, my ancestors didn’t own slaves, nor were we enslaved. As an Asian, I feel like an outsider to the America’s conflict between white and black. I am now relegated to a mere observer in the conflict. As an observer, to my Caucasian and African-American friends, you all are screwed. There will be no winners in this fight, and you’ll kill each other to ensure, you’re not the loser. Sadly, you are actually doing this. More thought about this in the future.

Let’s get back to diversity. As my African-American friends felt frustrated that no black actors had been nominated for a second year in a row, I wish to convey my frustration that only one Asian actor has won an Academy Award in acting. That was Haing S. Ngor in 1985 for the Killing Fields. He was Best Supporting Actor. As happy as I was for him, the guy wasn’t even American. That’s like Javier Bardem’s Oscar was a victory for Latino Americans. It’s as if Bardem’s win was a victory for latinos, and he isn’t even latino, he’s hispanic. We’re a little frustrated too. There is a level of frustration that occurs when there are thousands of Asian and Latino actors and the actors that win were imported from outside the United States.

Why aren’t there more Asians with leading roles, hell any role, in Hollywood? If I were to be truly honest, we just not that good…yet. Hold on, before you brand me as a self-loathing Asian. In all honesty, I can’t think of the Asian George Clooney or the Asian Matt Damon. What about the Asian Meryl Streep? She doesn’t exist…yet. Is it a cultural issue? I’d say “yes” on both sides.

When Asians came to America, our parents encouraged us to get into careers that made a lot of money so that we would be financially stable. We should become doctors, engineers and bankers. Any thought of becoming actors and artists were literally beaten out of us as children. So yes, culturally we just don’t have a lot of good Asian actors.

White American culture has also held us back and not because they are overtly racist. HUMAN TRUTH: It’s sad but true, with every culture and race in the world, we are most comfortable being around people who are the most like us starting with race. We tend to root and support people who are the same race as us. I support Asian actors in Hollywood, but I support the Chinese ones more. As an American, I would rather see an American succeed over a Canadian. The only way to end racism is to end culture and become one homogenous group. You know you would hate to live in that world.

White people would rather watch movies starting white people, just as black people watch movies starring black people. Is that racist? No. White people don’t hate black movies and vice versa. It’s what we as individuals prefer. I love movies and 99% of movies star non-Asians. I don’t shrug my shoulders and put up with it. White or black, just tell me a good story and I’ll watch your damn movie. Sure, I’ll sees an Asian movie in support of my movie.

Last year, I attended the Los Angeles Asian Pacific Film Festival. By the title, you can guess what kind of movies are shown there. This is the best showcase of films produced by not only Asians but Asian-Americans. It served as the barometer of how far Asians have come in Hollywood. I walked away feeling, we’re not there yet, but we’re on our way. Of the movies, I saw only two stood out as potential mainstream successes. The first was “Twinsters” (now on Netflix), a documentary of an adopted Korean actress, who in her twenties, discovers she has a twin sister she never knew existed. The other was “Miss India America,” a comedy about the “Miss India” beauty pageant. It was genuinely funny with great jokes and told a non-typical story surrounding the adventure of a strong Indian woman. I had high hopes for the Wong Fu film, “Everything Before Us.” This should have been a breakout hit. They had production values of a typical Hollywood Rom-Com movie, but the story and acting had few fatal flaws that could have been easily fixed. This is not to put down the Wong Fu film, but just a statement that a few noticeable changes could have made this a significantly better film. Again, we’re on our way, but not there yet.

Let me conclude by saying this. The fact is the United States is a predominantly white country. That’s a fact, and this predominantly white country produces predominantly white movies. I may be a little naive, but I believe excellence in the things we do and produce is our only trump card to problems of the lack of diversity. For people of color, including myself, opportunities are opening up right now for black, Hispanic and Asian actors and filmmakers. It’s time for us minorities to seize the opportunities and up our game and become better actors and filmmakers. Strive for excellence because the door is closing and we have the opportunity to make sure that door stays open for a long time.

Fixing Diversity in Hollywood – Stop Nominating and Voting for White People

Is Hollywood racist? Many would believe it is. Recently, evidence has presented itself for the second time in a row when no person of color was nominated in any of the Academy Awards acting categories. Results from this atrocity include a boycott of the award ceremony by Spike Lee, Jada Pinkett-Smith, Will Smith and Snoop Dog; pressure for Chris Rock to step down as host of the Oscars; and threats of long-winded sympathy diversity speeches from the night’s winners.

Many respected Caucasian actors and actresses have come out in support of minorities in film. Some of the more cynical actors of color find it hypocritical for white actors to express outrage. As members of the majority class, they have not experienced prejudice in their career, so their outrage feels a bit shallow. No white person has yet to step forward and say, “As a race, we’ve had our lion share of nominations, please stop nominating us and please stop voting for us.”

Ultimately, we people of color would like to see one white actor step forward and say, “As a race, we’ve had our lion share of nominations, please stop nominating us and please stop voting for us.” Instead they blame the racism of their fellow actors and actresses…basically everyone else but themselves.

So let’s fix the problem. The nomination process for the Awards is peer-to-peer. This means actors nominate actors, directors nominate directors and so on. I would be interested to see which minority actors, the “concerned” white actors nominated or did they just go straight to Matt Damon as their first choice. If these “concerned” actors are actually concerned, then they will refuse to vote this year for anyone who is not a person of color. Then next year, refuse to nominate anyone who is not a person of color. White Hollywood Liberals…stop looking to your own race for qualified recipients, it’s OK that you don’t win every year. Give others a chance.

Action Steps for White People

  1. Refuse to nominate a white person in any category.
  2. Refuse to vote for a white person in any category

Expected Results: Ride Along 2 will be the Best Picture of 2016

A Special Moment on Stage #WhitePeopleCantWin

The weirdest moment happened to me during Saturday’s show. The game was blindline and I was performing with an amazing couple. The scene was a lot of fun and the audience, I believe, enjoyed the scene as well. In the scene, I played a guy, who had just gone out on a date with his friend’s sister. After incorporating a few random lines from the audience, the scene’s story was that my character wanted to marry the sister, but the brother thought it was a bad idea, since I had a drug addiction. So far, so good. We have a relationship and a good conflict.

As the scene progress, an audience was read and it had something to do with driving a Porsche (I honestly don’t remember the exact line). The sister then exclaims, “I don’t need to drive a Porsche. I drive a Honda Civic.” Then I responded, “I would even downgrade to a Toyota Prius.” I know…lame. I was just trying to justify the Porsche line and not doing a good job of it.

The scene ends and we all sit down, patting ourselves on the back for a well done and entertaining scene.

Jump to the end of the night and we discussing notes from the show. When it came time to talk about that scene, someone brought up the controversy surrounding the “Honda Civic” line. My first reaction was, “what the hell are you talking about?” Then it was explained to us, that might have gotten uncomfortable because I was being compared to a Honda Civic, because I was Japanese and that we just continued the scene as if nothing happened. My second response was, “Yes, nothing happened.” Apparently I didn’t don on me that I should have been offended because someone mentioned a popular make of car, that happened to be manufactured in Japan. Now that I think about it, I should be offended that people thought I was Japanese (no offense to my Japanese friends…some of you are my best friends).

My immediate reaction was to immediately accuse my fellow actors that they are way to sensitive when it comes to race. How did it come to this? My issue with political correctness is that good people are being accused of racism, when all they did was state on stage the type of car they drive when an Asian is standing next to them.

I rarely ever post about scenes I’ve performed in shows. Personally, I found the situation 100% funny and 0% offensive. I’ve been performing with this group since 2001…15 years. Have I ever felt uncomfortable or mistreated because of my race? NEVER!!! Have I ever felt uncomfortable or mistreated because I’m a Republican? HELL YEAH!!!

My suggestion for my white friends is please expend your energy going after real racists and less on trying find racism in the smallest of areas. There are bigger battles to fight.

When Should I Teach My Daughter to Be Racist?

I’ve been sitting on this essay for a while. There’s a juggling routine that requires precision or the balls come tumbling and everyone you know unfriends you.

Let’s be provocative for a moment. When exactly is the right time to teach my daughter to be racist?

I have a confession to make. I’m a bad father. I’m allowing my daughter to think she lives in a world where race doesn’t matter. Where she is just another kid in the sea of other kids.

From the beginning, my daughter was born in Korea to Korean teenagers. My wife and I were privileged to be selected by her parents and grandparents to allow a Chinese father and Caucasian mother to raise their child in America.

My daughter then was thrown into Chinese family gatherings on my side and the more traditional white American gatherings on my wife’s side. But I chickened out. I made to attempt to differentiate between the two families. So this Thanksgiving we’re spending the afternoon with the white family and the evening with the Chinese family. All my daughter knows is she’s having dinner with her mother’s family and then her dad’s. In other words, two turkey dinners.

Here’s where things get tricky. My daughter soon makes friends with the girl who lives next door. The family next door just moved to our neighborhood from Peru. Every day after school, my daughter asks, “Can I go next door and play?” I say yes, but then I remain silent. As she walks in, I think “They’re different from you.” When it gets dark, I walk next door and catch my daughter and her friend dressed as Disney Princesses.

Then the fateful day, new neighbors move into the house of our Peruvian friends. They have three daughters, all white and the oldest quickly becomes my daughter’s best friend. Out comes the My Little Ponies toys for hours of amusement. Then the endless hours, watching Inside Out and Despicable Me. Now they’re coordinating their Halloween costumes for yet another Frozen Halloween. In the back of my mind, I keep thinking should I tell her about the Caucasian atrocities from long ago. Can she really trust these people?

What about school? Every day I drop her off and most of the students there are white. Sure there are a lot of Asian, Hispanic, African, and Persian-American kids, but it’s mostly white. Every day, I wonder if I should warn her. Will she understand that “mostly white” is the foreshadowing of something more sinister as she grows older? Should I continue to let her believe that her friends are simply individuals with names and that the difference in skin color is no different than hair color? How much longer do I keep the secret from her?

What if I die before I tell her the truth about race in America?  If I died tomorrow, my daughter would naively walk the streets of America believing she is just as good and has the same value of her white, Hispanic, Persian, Asian and African-American friends.

What if one day, my adult daughter confronts her aging father and demands to know what her dad kept the race secret from her?

“Dad, why didn’t you tell me I couldn’t reach my full potential in life because of institutional racism,” she says as she drops me off at the old age home.

“Why didn’t you tell me I’m earning 20% less than my male co-workers and for the same kind of work,” she screams at me just before she pulls the plug on my life support.

For now, I will remain the coward and keep the race thing a secret. For now, I will let her believe she can be whatever she wants to be, even though she’s not white or male.

As with all lies though, you can’t hide the truth forever. So, when do I teach my kid to be racist?