Diary of a Bad Dad

This post is going to be an ongoing series about my thoughts on Fatherhood. The title comes from years of being labeled a bad dad by people in my life. People, whose opinion I care very little, and who for the most part a fellow Christians like myself.

As a middle child, I’m a pleaser by nature. I want everybody to like me. Now that I’m 47, I just don’t have the energy or will power to make people like me anymore. As trite as it sounds, the only opinion about my parenting style, that I care about is God and my daughter.

My daughter turns seven next month and already I’m a proud father. There are things I’ve intentionally instilled in her and things that shielded from her.

My Little Geek

The fight for childhood interests was a touchy subject for a while. My wife was at first able to get her into Disney Princesses and My Little Pony. But over time, my geek side has slowly crept into the mix. The two of us have seen Marvel’s Avengers seven times in the theaters and countless times at home. As of late, she’s brave enough to see Guardians of the Galaxy, and we’re just about ready to see it again.

What about my passion for wrestling? She expresses a desire to go to a WWE event with me, and her favorite wrestler is Sheamus. I don’t know why, but I’ll take it. She also thinks Stephanie McMahon is pretty.

My Social Butterfly

It’s well-documented that I’m an extreme introvert. My daughter is the exact opposite. She’s outgoing and friendly. She’s managed to make friends with our next door neighbors, get along with the kids at church and befriended even the kids of my friends.

Does Not Know Judgment

I’ll just get right to it. I have gay friends. I know gay couples. These gay couples have children. My daughter doesn’t care about the spiritual and moral ramifications of the gay lifestyle. She just sees two people who love each other and are raising their kids the best anyone can.

Honestly, it’s more important that my kid recognizes good and bad parents more than gay and straight parents. It would kill me if my daughter told a classmate his/her gay parents are sinners and refused to be friends with their child. That’s not the God; I want her to believe in.

That Me with Kevin McDonald of the Kids in the Hall

Kevin McDonald Workshop – Turning Improv Into Sketch

I’m planning on writing about this more in the future, but this little featured on the NCT Phoenix website is a great overview of what we did over the weekend. Plus you get to see my fat self on screen.

The workshop was about learning create sketches from improvised scenes. I learned about about trust and teamwork, especially working with people who have performed improv for a long time and barely at all.

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Political Correctness: Is It Evil to Ask a Question?

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ESPN has suspended “First Take” co-host Stephen A. Smith for a week. Why? For simply asking a question. For simply asking for more details before making final judgement.

it all started with the NFL suspended Baltimore Ravens running back Ray Rice for two games over allegations he beat his fiancee. During the discussion and opinion portion of the story, Smith states, “In Ray Rice’s case, he probably deserves more than a two-game suspension, which we both acknowledged. But at the same time, we also have to make sure that we learn as much as we can about elements of provocation. Not that there’s real provocation, but the elements of provocation.”

That statement was interpreted by critics as Smith suggesting that victims of abuse might also be responsible for provoking it.

Please reread the statement. Smith made no implication that Ray Rice’s fiancee provoked Rice into beating her.

I don’t know anything about what happened with Ray Rice because I don’t follow football, and I don’t have instant access to all the news.

DISCLAIMER: Before I proceed I have to make this statement. I believe that anyone who beats another person, male or female, adult or child, deserves punishment. Restraint is always better than violence in all domestic issues.

Let’s look at the headline…”Ravens’ Running Back Ray Rice Suspended for Two Games Over Allegations of Domestic Violence.”

As a reader what are we supposed to think? “Ray Rice beat his wife.” In my opinion, Ray Rice beat his wife and probably deserve more than a two-day suspension for his actions. But at the same time, I don’t have any facts about the situation other than a reputable news source.

My question to you is this. Is asking a question in this situation a sign that you hate women or should I blindly accept the headline as gospel truth.

Did Ray Rice, out of nowhere, strike his fiancee? Was he drunk or one drugs? Is he a violent person by nature? Or was he provoked into violence? Personally, I believe Rice would more likely answer “Yes” to the first three questions than the last. But that’s not what this is all about.

I’m an absolute proponent of the first amendment right to say anything, no matter how true, false, outrageous or offensive the question is.

America is heading down the wrong road, when we start penalizing people for asking a question. Debate is how we get to the truth in any situation. The moment we shutdown the debate by punishing people for proposing an alternate view, that’s the moment we move toward a totalitarian society.

Abortion, environment, the Middle East. We’re a divided nation because we’ve shut down debate. You’re evil and no longer worthy to be heard if you disagree with me. There are issues in my life that I feel I’m 100% right about…the existence of God and beating innocent women is wrong. But I’m not so arrogant that my opinions can not be challenged, and I’m not afraid to be challenged either. You should not be either.

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Comedy Central Debuts New Improvised Web Series – CC: Social Scene

The six-episode weekly series, hosted by comedian Paul Scheer and directed by Rich Talarico, debuted last week on the Viacom-owned cabler’s YouTube channel and also is distributed via the CC.com website, Facebook, Tumblr, Instagram and Twitter.

The “CC: Social Scene” ensemble cast includes Lee Newton, H. Michael Croner, Lilan Bowden, Jacob Womack, Jeff Sloniker and Barak Hardley. The first show revolved around the theme “worst breakup lines,” with others slated to include “what washes up on the beach,” “oddest combos at the BBQ” and “beach hogs,” inspired by beach horror stories.

Nasim Pedrad

Saturday Night Live Loses Four Cast Members for 2015 Season

I love Saturday Night Live. I’ll get into it another time, but being live makes that show. It allows you to be timely which is a benchmark of SNL. As with every summer, it’s interesting just to see who stays and who leaves. Even better, when you leave…why?

Let’s go over the three featured cast members who where not asked back: Brooks Wheelan, Noel Wells and John Milhiser. The reason they are not back is simple, they were given a full season to make in impact on the audience and they failed to become memorable.

I remember Brooks Wheelan from two spots on Weekend Update but after that nothing. One really funny moment about his bad tattoo choices. The other I don’t remember.

John Milhiser’s highlight on the season was his talent show sketch with Lady Gaga. Loved the simple set up and execution that Milhiser brought to the sketch but I don’t remember anything else.

Noel Wells has the best shot to stay, seeing that SNL needs female cast members. Noel did a few funny impressions but that’s about it. Noel was unfortunately eclipsed by the entrance of Sasheer Zamata, who hit the bricks running and never looked back.

I’m sure all three are likable people, but I’ve heard all the stories about how hard you had to fight for screen time and Brooks, Noel and John just lost the fight.

I remember at the beginning of the season thinking that adding six new cast members was a lot, but it was probably a smart idea to give young comedians a chance to say they were on Saturday Night Live even if for a season.

To say that SNL can launch a career is an understatement. Just ask Will Ferrell and Kristen Wiig. Nasim Pedrad is testing her wings starring in the John Mulaney (creator of Update’s Stefon) sit-com.

During the Television Critics Association preview, Pedrad said “Obviously there’s nothing like that show and I was lucky to be there for five years. At some point you have to leave, and I can’t think of a better reason to leave than for this particular show and this particular cast.”

“Yeah, had it not been for this show. Look, at the end of the day, these are two shows filming at the same time on opposite coasts. It wouldn’t have been practical to stay there,” she said. “I don’t think it’s that common to get this kind of group together, and having experienced working with John at SNL, I couldn’t be more confident in his ability to write and star in a sitcom like this, truly.”

Only time will tell if Pedrad can replicate Andy Samberg’s success with Brooklyn-Nine-Nine.

 

New Radio Station Website – KTSTfmAnaheim.com

As some of you know, I have a radio program on KTST 89.5 fm in Anaheim. On top of that, I’ve been able to attend some amazing events on behalf of the station. I love the show and hope to become a better broadcaster soon.

Anyway, if you’ve been to the website for the station, it’s old. It hasn’t been updated in years and it looks incredibly unprofessional.

The station manager has been kind enough to let me update the website. I believe in doing whatever it takes to look professional and fortunately with a website, it’s easy to look professional and a small cost.

The station website is live now and it only took a few hours to give it a nice professional look. Check it out – http://www.KTSTfmAnaheim.com.

This is also the reason way the Geek Lab site has been neglected. Be sure to tune into the Geek Lab Wednesday at 7:00 pm.

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The Test of Patience

This week has been a huge test of my patience. My life is in the hands of other people/organizations and I’m helpless. I hate that I have to hand hold

We all want to feel like we have control over our own destinies. It’s the freedom that American was built on. I want the choice to determine my next step in life. I want the freedom to know what my family’s well-being is secure.

This week has been especially taxing on me personally. As you may know, while I’m working on my writing skills and taking classes, I’m driving for Lyft and Uber in order to make ends meet. Lyft has been a great company to work for, but I tend to make more money with Uber at the moment.

For Uber, I have to have records for my car and myself, uploaded to the website. Unfortunately, my insurance, vehicle registration and driver’s license, all expire in the same month. Uber sends me notice that I need to upload new documents. Fine, I have said documents. The problem is Uber’s website is the worst. I upload my documents as requested and days later, my account is de-activated. I notify driver relations and they tell me, I’m in compliance and they re-activate my account.

That is until next week, when the computer system de-activates me again. They want me to upload the documents, which I do. After notifying driver relations, they re-activate my account. Every time this happens, I lose a night of work. For four weeks in a row, my account is de-activated and this time it’s over a day for the problem to be fixed.

I call them, e-mail them, complain to them, but my fate is still left in the hands of incompetents. Uber is not the only ones, schools, doctors, insurance companies and the government. The government is the worst. They have need to be efficient and take your problem seriously.

At least with Uber, I have alternatives, but not with the government. If they make a mistake with your information, you’re screwed! If they change a regulation, they can hide behind the law. If they make a life-threatening mistake, you have no recourse or protection. These are the guys you want to hand your health insurance and medical well-being over to.

Sorry about getting all politcal. Now it’s time to get a little spiritual. There are only a few verses that I’ve memorized from the Bible.

Matthew 6:33 – But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteous and all these things will be added to you. Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself.

Alan freaking out because there's no place to stand in line.

My First Red Carpet – Part 2

Hope you had a chance to read the first part of my first red carpet experience. As an introvert, I found that this was a great stride forward for me personally and professionally.

Now we’re at the point of the night, where the stars of the movie, Obvious Child, began to arrive. I actually prepared questions all day for Jake Lacy, Gillian Robespierre and Jenny Slate. Also arriving was Gaby Hoffman, who was not scheduled to be there that night. Needless to say, I didn’t have anything for her.

Step 1 – Confidence (or at least pretending to have confidence)

Yes, smile. Shake hands. Be prepared. They are people just like you and they want you to promote their movie. Yes, I’m from a small radio station in Anaheim, but I’m ready to hold my own with these other video programs that I’ve never heard of.

Step 2 – Go over questions and remember backup questions.

This is a step that I didn’t prepare well for. You’ve got to anticipate various ways that they may answer the question and then have a question for that.

Now the moment of truth.

First to approach was Jake Lacy (The Office), who plays understanding boyfriend Max. Jake was the best way to start. He was incredibly friendly to me and gave great answers. Just as our interview was about to start, he was immediately pulled away to take a cast photo on the red carpet. He immediately came back, apologized and the interview began.

It was such a great interview, I hated to cut up this response to the question, “You play a nice guy in the movie, was that a difficult acting challenge.” Although the censored version made air, I included the bad words in the video.

Up next is Jenny Slate. Jenny was a tough interview. She appears to be a great person to know, just hard to interview. I felt like she was nervous to be there and a little out of her comfort zone. My worst question was if she did stand-up. She said yes, and I had no backup question. I cringe every time I hear it. It was all bad and I take responsibility for that.

Finally, interviewed Gillian Robespierre, the writer/director of Obvious Child. This turned out better. “Great way to pick it up, Alan.” “Thanks,” I replied wondering who was talking to me. I like to talk to the actual filmmakers more than the cast. They are the ones who put in all the hard work from writing and refining the script and finding producers to make the dream a reality. Then there’s trying to translate the vision in your head to the final product on screen.

As much as I might have mixed feeling about the interview that day, I’m proud of the outcome…Mostly (that’s the introvert talking).

Here’s the final product. Please comment and be gentle.

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